I don’t remember New Year’s eve as a celebration for the next year or a farewell to the previous year. My favorite memory of New Year’s Eve is me, my brother and my parents sitting and watching TV programs till midnight and as soon as it became next year, we would wish each other and go to sleep. Those days, there used to be fun-filled programs on TV that you could watch as a whole family. It was cold so we would be inside comforters, watching, talking about the programs, my mom would take a break and make some tea and we would laugh together. It used to be wonderful. I don’t think we actually did it because we wanted to celebrate the New Year but I think we did it because we loved having that time together and it became a tradition.
As we and our parents got older, it was difficult to sit till midnight, but we tried till 11 at least. But after all these years, it still brings a smile on my face and I still love those New Year’s eve days!
What is your favorite New Year’s ever memory??
We all have this inclination to want people to understand us. We see ourselves saying this to ourselves or to the other person – “I was going through this and that is why I acted that way and instead of you understanding what I was going through, you were worried about yourself.” Do we really understand what the other person is going through? In this world, we all have our own pains, we all have our own small or big heart aches. It is understandable that we don’t feel the same every day…one day we may feel we can conquer the whole world…another day we may not feel anything…and another day, we might feel everything is taking us down.W e are humans and we are entitled to our ups and downs.
But are we entitled to another person’s understanding and compassion? If the other person is not having a good day, they might not understand us…if they are having a good day, they might not understand us…if they are having an okay day, still they may not be able to understand us..Why?? Because in every case, they are thinking about their own situation…a bad day would mean they are not able to solve their own problems to take over someone else’s; A good day would mean they don’t want anything else to spoil their wonderful day; an okay day would mean they are listening to you but they are still figuring out their day. No one is bad or selfish because they do that. It is just that we are built that way. It is just that our expectations make us feel that the other person is not able to understand us. If we are able to make adjustments to our own thinking and expect less from others, our disappointments can reduce too and helps in not adding an extra stress to our already existing stressful life. If we only could understand that we are all built-in a different way and we all look at things in different ways…
Does that mean we should not have expectations?? What will you do??
My brother send me this article from Readers Digest in which this guy’s monthly password reminds him of what he needs to do next and how it keeps him focused on his goal. Every time, he had to type his password, he was reminded of what he had to accomplish that month. I started wondering, Don’t we all need a reminder to keep us focused on what we want to do? We could have enlisted every single thing we want to do for our entire life in a notebook, journal or maybe a phone (considering technology) but does it keep us focused? I have had a time in my life where I just wanted to send a mail but ended up procrastinating it for a long time that at last, I forgot. The article also made me think if we should have short term goals that will ultimately culminate in a long term goal. The guy in the article started his monthly password trend using just “forgiving his ex”, “quitting smoking” to finally, his destination of finding that “life is beautiful”.
I am trying to find my own ways to remind myself of my short and long term goals to keep me on track. I want to have it accomplished, not just half done or I still have time to do. Life is short and thus, I need to set my password to my goals. Do you have a password to remind you??